Doing X Well and Failing …


Thumbs Up - Morguefile.com.pngI have often been complimented on how well I do X….

Being complimented makes me feel good … appreciated, valued, competent, and so forth.  This makes me do X more and better, because I like the praise and attention that comes my way.

 I often receive requests (or sometimes demands) from other people to do X for them.How I do X is shared and talked about at gatherings.   I become known to many as “The X Guy” or even, unfortunately, “The X Meister“.  People tell me how dependent they are on me doing that X thing regularly for them.

My fame for doing X well spreads far and wide, resulting in fascinating opportunities and offers to do X for someone else who will pay me more and shower me with glittery incentives … all just to do X.

Problem is that I do not particularly enjoy doing X … I like the praise, but not the process to earn the praise.

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Loyal To A Fault


Pledging Allegiance - Wikipedia Public Domain“Purpose is the recognition of the ‘loyalty of life’ … We receive from life what we are loyal to.” (p. 14 in The Power of Purpose)

When I encounter the word “loyalty”, I immediately remember saying the Pledge of Allegiance as a very young citizen of this country.  Loyalty seems to evoke images like the one above … a group of people earnestly promising to do and support things in a particular way.

As an adult, I have come to realize that loyalty has very little, if anything, to do with reciting oaths and making promises.  Sometimes your loyalty is to an ideal, which means that you resist the outward symbols and take issue with what is asked of you.  But that’s a post for another day …

The type of loyalty referred to in the quotation above is a much more personal type of loyalty. Continue reading