Recalculating Route . . .


“Recalculating route.” I’m a guy and I drive.  I have heard this statement a lot.

Almost everyone who owns any type of Global Positioning System (GPS) knows that this is what you hear when you do not follow the directions of the system as it tries to get you to your destination.  Some, like me, have heard it way too often:

“I know where I’m going, darn it, and don’t need some silly computer application to tell me when to turn!”

Oops . . . sigh . . . “Recalculating route” . . . .

Chris Brogan is one of my favorite thinkers.  He gives a good example of on-the-ground thinking around this in his blog entitled “Redrawing”.    Here’s even more from Chris on this subject.

Here’s a slightly different take on change from the folks at Interns Over 40.  All of this and countless other sources reinforce the need to review and revise from time to time.

Well,  I think it is time for me to take a long and deep look at what I am doing and consider alternative routes.  So, I’ve done just that for the last few weeks and will continue for a while.  In the meantime, I am also revamping my blogging strategy and you will notice a new look and a new focus.  I welcome any observations, critiques, or pithy comments . . .

. . . With thanks to Rev. Jeff Moore of Webster Groves Christian Church in St. Louis, MO  for the original inspiration.

Here's Looking At You, Kid . . .


One of the most impacting and emotional experiences of my life happened a long time ago in a faraway land called Texas.

At the time, I was doing a significant amount of work in connection with helping others who had been touched by addiction, both users and family members.  As part of an intensive two-day weekend retreat focusing on authentic communication and therapeutic techniques, near the end of the second day, we were paired with another person and asked to perform a deceptively simple exercise.  In turn, we would stand facing one another and hold hands, then establish eye contact and, without breaking eye contact, each share some positive thoughts we had observed or learned about the other during the retreat.  Often our comments were of the “You are a unique and loved child of God” variety along with specific descriptions of how we had brought value to the event.

It was that “without breaking eye contact” part which made this an incredibly emotive and difficult exercise for most of us.  I had to phsyically resist strong repeated urges to look away, not so much as I was talking, but while I was listening.  I will freely admit crying.  My background did not prepare me to hear such direct and honest positivity.

Here are some ruminations on the power of sight from various sources to stimulate your thinking.

I looked at God and He looked at me, and we were one forever.” C. H. Spurgeon

I see you.” repeated line in the movie Avatar (said by one character to another to indicate love)

The eyes are the window to the soul.”  (various sources)

The eyes not only look, but are looked at.” (James J. Gibson and Anne D. Pick)

Even in our more sedate world of training, teaching, and group facilitation, we understand the value and power of eye contact.  As one of my favorite presentation experts says, “Eye connection means spending time with each person so that person feels like you’re just talking to them.” (Olivia Mitchell)

When have you experienced this power of direct eye contact?

What observations do you have regarding how this power is best used?

John

Here’s Looking At You, Kid . . .


One of the most impacting and emotional experiences of my life happened a long time ago in a faraway land called Texas.

At the time, I was doing a significant amount of work in connection with helping others who had been touched by addiction, both users and family members.  As part of an intensive two-day weekend retreat focusing on authentic communication and therapeutic techniques, near the end of the second day, we were paired with another person and asked to perform a deceptively simple exercise.  In turn, we would stand facing one another and hold hands, then establish eye contact and, without breaking eye contact, each share some positive thoughts we had observed or learned about the other during the retreat.  Often our comments were of the “You are a unique and loved child of God” variety along with specific descriptions of how we had brought value to the event.

It was that “without breaking eye contact” part which made this an incredibly emotive and difficult exercise for most of us.  I had to phsyically resist strong repeated urges to look away, not so much as I was talking, but while I was listening.  I will freely admit crying.  My background did not prepare me to hear such direct and honest positivity.

Here are some ruminations on the power of sight from various sources to stimulate your thinking.

I looked at God and He looked at me, and we were one forever.” C. H. Spurgeon

I see you.” repeated line in the movie Avatar (said by one character to another to indicate love)

The eyes are the window to the soul.”  (various sources)

The eyes not only look, but are looked at.” (James J. Gibson and Anne D. Pick)

Even in our more sedate world of training, teaching, and group facilitation, we understand the value and power of eye contact.  As one of my favorite presentation experts says, “Eye connection means spending time with each person so that person feels like you’re just talking to them.” (Olivia Mitchell)

When have you experienced this power of direct eye contact?

What observations do you have regarding how this power is best used?

John

Stepping Out Into Nothing . . .


There is a great movie moment in Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade, where Jones, to save his father’s life, successfully meets three challenges, one of which is to cross a deep chasm with no apparent way to do so.

By stepping out into what appears to be empty air above a very long fall, our hero finds the “hidden” bridge and crosses the chasm to continue his quest for that which will save his father. This scene is a great visual on how we sometimes have to move out and forward when no obvious way to do so exists, along with an object lesson on the value and strength of faith and trust.

Ever stepped out into nothing? How that work out for you?

John

Stepping Out Into Nothing . . .


There is a great movie moment in Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade, where Jones, to save his father’s life, successfully meets three challenges, one of which is to cross a deep chasm with no apparent way to do so.

By stepping out into what appears to be empty air above a very long fall, our hero finds the “hidden” bridge and crosses the chasm to continue his quest for that which will save his father. This scene is a great visual on how we sometimes have to move out and forward when no obvious way to do so exists, along with an object lesson on the value and strength of faith and trust.

Ever stepped out into nothing? How that work out for you?

John