Deceiving Self …

Over at the Lead Change Group blog today, some guy with a fictitious-sounding name is going on about how we deceive ourselves and why that is not a good idea.  Here’s a taste of what this so-called “John E. Smith” character is talking up this morning:


The Box of Self-Deception

Identify someone with a problem and you’ll be identifying someone who resists the suggestion that he has one.  That’s self-deception – the inability to see that one has a problem.”  

(The Arbinger Institute in Leadership and Self-Deception, 2nd ed., p. 17)

We are “in the box,” as the Arbinger folks say, when we engage in certain behaviors which create or reinforce our self-deception.

Of course, I’m not sure that the above is always the case. A leader who has a problem may be so self-aware, self-confident, and self-effacing that he or she simply acknowledges reality by making amendments and correcting their behavior.

However, most of us are not quite that perfect, so “the box appears to fit” in many cases, so to speak.    Continue reading here …

While you are on the Lead Change Group site, take a few minutes to poke around and sample some of the many useful and engaging posts around leadership and personal development from a diverse and accomplished group of writers, thinkers, and doers.

Shoot, you might even consider joining and adding your strong voice to our efforts to increase character-based leadership.

Meanwhile, I will stroll blithely on, believing strongly in my own cleverness in the Heartland …



Speaking Up and Speaking Out …

Protest - Morguefile.comA recent Lead Change Group post by Jane Perdue  was all about how we do not always do or say the right thing, but often choose to remain quiet and go with the majority, even when we know it is the wrong thing to do.  Much research exists to support the idea that we will even doubt our own senses when others react differently to a situation.

Jane’s engaging and value-filled thoughts are always well worth a few minutes of your time.

Here is my edited and revised response to Jane’s thoughts:

Best Understatement:  “For most of us, being in situations where we are isolated, don’t fit in, or face reprisals isn’t much fun.”

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Out of The Office …

Lead Change Group February blog screen shot

Happy February 29th

Not sure of the significance of this additional day to our year, but it certainly gets more than its share of Facebook memes and a massive commercial celebration in every store I see, so I guess that is something.

Meanwhile, some of my thoughts about certainty and uncertainty are featured today over at the Lead Change Group blog.  In this post, I say absolutely nothing about Leap Year or February 29, but you might find my observations about how we view uncertainty interesting.

Please check out Lead Change Group for consistently interesting and useful leadership and personal development thinking … not mine so much, but everyone else is really thoughtful and articulate:)

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By the way … “NO!“, that is not a selfie above … it is one of many unusual and interesting images available from

Trying to make good use of my extra 24 hours in the Heartland ….





Questions, Questions, Questions …

Question Marks in BoxI am guest blogging today over at the Lead Change Groupwith some pointed questions about questions and why we use them so darn much.

Here’s an excerpt from the section on Learning Questions to give you a small taste:

When we ask a question, and then listen to the answer, consider what has been said, and then respond, we are learning.

Questions help us learn something. We often ask a question because we want to know something we do not know. Sometimes we ask a question to test our assumed knowledge. We ask questions to move the ball down the field.

“How did you do that?” clearly opens the door for the other person to share their knowledge with us.

Please feel free to pop over and look for logical lapses, typographical or grammatical errors, and just plain misjudgements and lies by clicking below:

Riddle Me This …

While you are there, check out all the other valuable and articulate blog posts by some of the best minds in leadership and personal development.

Feeling pleased with myself in the Heartland ….


A Peril of Time Travel …

MemoriesAt least now I can say I have a time machine …

Interesting that neither memories nor dreams are real, isn’t it?

Memories reconstruct what has been in the past and dreams give birth to our visions of what might be in the future.  

Both exist ONLY in our minds…

The following thoughts come from comments originally made in response to a post on the Lead Change Group blog by Alan Utley, who thoughtfully and articulately discussed the use of stories to motivate and influence.  You should go read his post.

I often used to tell a story about how a youthful shop-lifting event shaped my values. In the story, I owned up to my misdeed (after some angst) and received a reward  for doing so. I once told that story in front of my mother … who then categorically dismantled that version of my own memory. Continue reading