Interesting that neither memories nor dreams are real, isn’t it?
Memories reconstruct what has been in the past and dreams give birth to our visions of what might be in the future.
Both exist ONLY in our minds…
The following thoughts come from comments originally made in response to a post on the Lead Change Group blog by Alan Utley, who thoughtfully and articulately discussed the use of stories to motivate and influence. You should go read his post.
I often used to tell a story about how a youthful shop-lifting event shaped my values. In the story, I owned up to my misdeed (after some angst) and received a reward for doing so. I once told that story in front of my mother … who then categorically dismantled that version of my own memory.Continue reading →
You will sample a “groovy”, if relatively unknown musical group from the past, hear a catchy little tune that will snuggle into your ear for the evening, and catch very short glimpses of more familiar faces from Fifties-Sixties era television than you can shake a stick at.
Play the “How Many Can You Name?” game and we’ll hand out participation awards later.
Great fun here for those of us who claimEarly Baby Boomerstatus, plus our children and grandchildren may well be completely mystified – Bonus:)
WHAT MEMORIES DOES THIS MUSIC AND THESE IMAGES STIR IN YOU?
Shaking my tail feathers just a little as I lurch into the weekend in the Heartland ….
“The surest way to remember something is to try to forget it.”
via Anonymous, who sure has a lot to say about things
Interesting, isn’t it? … We want to forget something, so we try very hard to not think about it.
This, of course, results in us focusing on the thing we want to forget even more than we probably were before.
Focus creates learning and our brains record what we focus on.
So, following this logic, the only real way to forget something is to not think about it. Try that and see how it works:). Personally, I’ve always found trying not to think about something to be a sure-fire way to think about it.
The very act of trying not to think about a thing makes us think about it.
Some better options:
1) Deal with whatever you would rather forget – take away its power to engage you.
2) Get real busy doing something you love. Distraction is a sure path to forgetting.
3) Learn to live with memories … they are not real, just thoughts.
The evidence continues to mount that our memories, which we continue to view as the official record of our lives, are not all they are cracked up to be.
As one of the many who tend to insist on saying things like “I remember what I said“, as though that makes my version of reality an inviolate truth to be enshrined for all time, I find the things we are learning about memory fascinating.
Memory is one of our perceptions and is similar to viewing something. The police will always ask “Who saw what happened?” at the scene of an accident or a crime … and the lawyers will always destroy that same eye-witness testimony in court. We are less in possession of The Truth than we are comfortable admitting.