About Milana and Curiosity …

Curiosity and The Cat - Morguefile.com.jpgMaybe you already knew this, but the Internet can be a tremendous waste of time …

I personally know for a fact that when you click on a link, you are creating an unimaginable number of possible rabbit holes, down which you can merrily go, encountering distractions beyond measure … all just a click away.

A few seconds to check out an interesting (or appalling) link become minutes spent poring over every detail of something you may not have even known existed before you clicked that link.   Then there are all the “related” links offered for your further pleasure.

The Internet is a procrastinator’s dream  … you have the illusion of being very busy, while accomplishing absolutely nothing of lasting value, or so it seems.


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ENCORE POST: Refire! is Hot Stuff …


ME:  Slightly over a year ago, I reviewed this book.  Today I find myself immersed in the concepts of purpose, positive aging, and am spending considerable time figuring out how I can contribute to our generational rewriting of “retirement”.  I keep running into this book, as one of the essential resources for those interested in living a fuller and more meaningful live, right up to the last minute.

The post has been somewhat edited from the original, which posted on February 5, 2015, but my essential feeling remains the same:  THIS BOOK IS READABLE, THOUGHTFUL AND VALUABLE.


promo_03.pngSilly me … based on a cursory glance, I thought this book was about motivating employees to avoid firing or forcing them out.  

Prepared to slog dutifully through the text, notating strong points to share intelligently about the author’s message, I found myself instead absorbed in the perspectives being shared, reading rapidly, with frequent stops for reflection and margin scribbling.  This book engaged me on a very personal level.

Refire, Don’t Retire: Make the Rest of Your Life the Best of Your Life by Ken Blanchard and Morton Shaevitz is simply the right book with the right tone at the right time in the right place …

To refire is to approach life with gusto.  It’s to see each day as an opportunity for adventure and learning?  It’s to infuse passion and zest into every area of your life – emotional, intellectual, physical, and spiritual.  Heart, head, body, and soul. (pg. 9)

The authors understand clearly that “retirement age” does not mean what it has in the past for most of us.    We  want to continue to live significantly as conditions change around us and Blanchard and Shaevitz share four essential keys to help us do so:


“You can’t enrich your current relationships or forge new ones if you keep on doing the same things in the same ways.”  (pg. 31)

This section is about energizing our emotional connections and the strength that flows from them.  We know that change is essential to build strong emotional ties, but we are often prevented from changing because change involves risk.  We have to become brave.

Unless there’s a legitimate reasons to say no, you say yes! “ (pg. 41) says The Last-Minute Gang

This idea is the single most empowering concept in the book and challenging for many of us who have built comfortable and predictable lives.  Blanchard and Shaevitz encourage us to break out and risk by doing things we might usually pass on.  

This is especially effective when combined with the Nothing Ordinary rule:  

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Some Thoughts On Social Media …

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Yes, I have been “wasting time” on social media …

Just visited Facebook as part of my daily social media ritual, which includes wishing a happy birthday to people with whom I have connected over the years.  This simple gesture takes a few seconds for each one and I enjoy a brief reminder of how this person has affected my life.

Today was unusually plentiful in this regard, at least for me – here’s a quick run-down of who I was thinking about a little while ago:

One of my earliest friends from my childhood … and an early adolescent crush …

Three people who share social media work … but whom I have never met, since they live in two other states and one other country …

Two former co-workers from two different companies …

Three ministers or religious workers … one a former student at a college where I worked, another who guides an online call discernment group I participated in once upon a time, and the last who is an active leader around social justice issues through our shared denomination and current town …

So that was today’s larger than usual bu representative roundup, which still does not include every aspect of my life that my varied connections symbolize. Continue reading

” … From a Certain Point of View” …

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Well, maybe a few truths exist … but our truths are often far less true than we believe them to be.


Much of what we assume is true is really our personal perception of what we are dealing with, based on our unique blend of background, experience, culture, attitudes, ideals, and beliefs.  No two people look at or experience something in the same way.

For example:  Never assume that because you experienced and overcame poverty at one point in your life that you fully understand what experiencing poverty is for another and that what worked for you will work for them. Continue reading

On The Road … A few thoughts about the leadership journey

This post originally appeared on May 28, 2013 and has been revised and updated:


DSCN3228 “Do You Know What Your Leadership Journey Is?”

Dan Oestrich recently (well, three years ago) asked this interesting question of the People Skills group on Google+.

You can read the complete post and all the responses by clicking the title above.  My response is below, somewhat expanded from the original:

My leadership “journey” has been more like an aimless stroll around the edge of a metropolitan area than a planned march toward a specified and clear destination.   I have experienced leadership in corporate environments, on college campuses, in therapeutic circles, the military, and with more groups of various sizes and design than I can remember.

When I reflect back on all that, the clear things for me include these thoughts:

FIRST:  Leadership is a journey, but not necessarily one with a destination at the end … more like an endless spiral.

Leadership can happen in many different environments, in different ways, for different reasons.  Our journey may not be a linear one, or the type that looks great on a résumé. Continue reading