Are You Busy Right Now? …


Being Busy - Presenter MediaIT’S NOT ABOUT THE NUMBER OF ROLES WE JUGGLE …

Most of us juggle multiple roles as needed and sometimes at the same time.  Even within a role, you have sub-roles.  

At work, you may be a colleague, an employee, a boss, a collaborator, or a rival … all within an hour or two.  At home, you may be a spouse, a parent, a child, a sibling, or an in-law, each of which requires a different perspective and approach.

The trick here is to know which role needs our focus and energy at a particular time.  Work at your vocation in the office, but let your home be a haven for being a spouse, a partner, a parent, and sometimes a child.

IT’S NOT ABOUT THE INTENSITY OF OUR WORK …

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Risking Without Risk …


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Well, we ALL want glory, right? …

Not really … most folks are probably more interested in stability, safety, enough to meet our needs and some of our wants, and to be known to those who we care about.

If you are one of those many, you may think this post and that quotation have little to offer you.   I beg to differ …

As we go through life, most of us are confronted by a series of firsts:  First overnight away from Mom and Dad, first airplane trip, first date, first kiss, first day of high school … and so on and so on throughout our lives.  First job interview, first job, first promotion, first challenge at work, first job loss, first time to buy a car, rent a house, buy a house, have a child, adopt a child, watch a child leave, lose a close friend or a loved one.

Every first includes some element of risk that we might not succeed or manage the moment.

Whether we desire risk in our lives or not is immaterial, because risk is already present and very prominent.   Risk is part of what makes life interesting and sometimes very exciting.  We risk every morning when we open our eyes, take a deep breath, and move. Continue reading

Reflections on Old Men and McDonald’s …


CoffeeTHE COFFEE AND THE CONVERSATIONS FLOW FREELY …

Every once in a while, a woman or a slightly younger man shows up, but this is almost exclusively an old man’s world.

Men of a certain maturity sit and chat, about the weather, about goings-on in their lives, their children and grandchildren, the state of the world, sometimes about politics, but that is often restricted to the local level or a chorus of people who all see things pretty much the same. 

Every tongue is loose and words flow freely … I wonder if they are this verbose in other situations or at home.  I imagine not …

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Deceiving Self …


Over at the Lead Change Group blog today, some guy with a fictitious-sounding name is going on about how we deceive ourselves and why that is not a good idea.  Here’s a taste of what this so-called “John E. Smith” character is talking up this morning:

THE BOX OF SELF-DECEPTION

The Box of Self-Deception

Identify someone with a problem and you’ll be identifying someone who resists the suggestion that he has one.  That’s self-deception – the inability to see that one has a problem.”  

(The Arbinger Institute in Leadership and Self-Deception, 2nd ed., p. 17)

We are “in the box,” as the Arbinger folks say, when we engage in certain behaviors which create or reinforce our self-deception.

Of course, I’m not sure that the above is always the case. A leader who has a problem may be so self-aware, self-confident, and self-effacing that he or she simply acknowledges reality by making amendments and correcting their behavior.

However, most of us are not quite that perfect, so “the box appears to fit” in many cases, so to speak.    Continue reading here …

While you are on the Lead Change Group site, take a few minutes to poke around and sample some of the many useful and engaging posts around leadership and personal development from a diverse and accomplished group of writers, thinkers, and doers.

Shoot, you might even consider joining and adding your strong voice to our efforts to increase character-based leadership.

Meanwhile, I will stroll blithely on, believing strongly in my own cleverness in the Heartland …

John

 

Doing X Well and Failing …


Thumbs Up - Morguefile.com.pngI have often been complimented on how well I do X….

Being complimented makes me feel good … appreciated, valued, competent, and so forth.  This makes me do X more and better, because I like the praise and attention that comes my way.

 I often receive requests (or sometimes demands) from other people to do X for them.How I do X is shared and talked about at gatherings.   I become known to many as “The X Guy” or even, unfortunately, “The X Meister“.  People tell me how dependent they are on me doing that X thing regularly for them.

My fame for doing X well spreads far and wide, resulting in fascinating opportunities and offers to do X for someone else who will pay me more and shower me with glittery incentives … all just to do X.

Problem is that I do not particularly enjoy doing X … I like the praise, but not the process to earn the praise.

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