IT’S NOT ABOUT THE NUMBER OF ROLES WE JUGGLE …
Most of us juggle multiple roles as needed and sometimes at the same time. Even within a role, you have sub-roles.
At work, you may be a colleague, an employee, a boss, a collaborator, or a rival … all within an hour or two. At home, you may be a spouse, a parent, a child, a sibling, or an in-law, each of which requires a different perspective and approach.
The trick here is to know which role needs our focus and energy at a particular time. Work at your vocation in the office, but let your home be a haven for being a spouse, a partner, a parent, and sometimes a child.
IT’S NOT ABOUT THE INTENSITY OF OUR WORK …
We may work very hard in stressful and uncomfortable environments much or even all of the time. Intensity can create energy and focus, but it also drains that energy over time.
While we may do many things while working in intense environments, we may not be doing our best work. Reflection is a valuable strategy, which can offer huge returns, if you invest some of your time and energy into using it.
The greatest value often comes from the quiet and reflective thinking we do about work or our relationships.
IT’S NOT ABOUT HOW HARD WE WORK …
As my father often tried to teach me, “work smarter, not harder“. If we are working hard, but would fail the following “test”, we are not working smart. We are just putting in time and expending energy.
Our society rewards and prizes “hard work“, but often at the cost of “good work“. Doing the right thing should be the easiest thing, because it comes from our passions, beliefs, and values. Sometimes we are told that doing the right thing is hard … but that is not necessarily true.
Okay, here is my three-question assessment on how to tell if you are okay or struggling along. As always, the more honestly you respond and the more thoughtfully you consider each question will inform the value of your responses.
Think of a specific area of your life (work, family, or other) as you respond. The more specific the focus for your responses, the more valuable the plan you then develop to either maintain or improve your responses.
Are you spending more time creating or avoiding?
Are you generally addressing issues or just discussing them?
Are you generally happy or are you depressed?
Simple rating scale: The closer you are to the first choice, the better.
If your honest and thoughtful responses are toward the second choice, you can choose to create plans to change your responses toward the first choice.
Feeling rather pleased with this deceptively simple little assessment in the Heartland ….