“Jealousy is the very reverse of understanding or sympathy, and of generous feelings. Never has jealousy added to character, and never does it make the individual big and fine.”
From the essay “Jealousy: Causes and a Possible Cure“ by Emma Goldman
Image: “Jealousy and Flirtation” by Haynes King (1874) via Wikipedia
Not that I ever have a problem with jealousy. Well, except maybe …
... When someone else receives the promotion I should have had.
… On reading about another person winning Powerball, while I stare at my piece of worthless paper bearing my “lucky” numbers.
… As I watch all those supremely happy people posting away on Facebook or LinkedIn, each apparently enjoying a far superior quality of life to my own.
… In traffic, as I wistfully or even angrily watch the folks in the other lane zoom past our stalled and overheating vehicles.
… In a meeting, while listening to or reading someone else say what I was thinking.
Okay, maybe I’m a little jealous sometimes.
The questions I face after admitting this include:
“What will I do to move from jealousy to action?”
“What will I do to accept and not to envy?”
“How will I help myself understand the difference between acting and acceptance?”
If I get busy acting to change things I can, learning to accept things that I can’s change, and making darn sure I am not trying to change things I cannot or accepting things I should not … I may just not have time for jealousy anymore.
Making a distinct nod to Reinhold Niebuhr this fine Autumn morning in the Heartland ….
Click for the complete text of Niebuhr’s Serenity Prayer - especially if you do not know it past “... the wisdom to know the difference.”