Do you feel it too?
In discussions with trusted colleagues, friends and family, some things are becoming more clear as we move closer to the end of the year.
Some events, such as the Connecticut school shootings, are recent, horrific, heart-breaking… and weighing on people’s minds, even in the middle of their own personal joys and troubles.
Some events, like the ongoing difficult economic picture for many or long-term relational issues, continue as persistent and erosive issues … affecting people and their relationships with family, coworkers, and others.
A number of people face emotional disruption during this season of joy, as they do every day, because they do not experience love, connection, or meaning in their lives… they move through our lives unseen and unheard.
My habit is usually to try to ignore my woes and try to get into the holiday spirit. This sometimes results in poor financial decisions, unnecessary emotional stress, and a constant feeling of being overwhelmed and not up to snuff.
This year is different …
How is this affecting you?
I am looking for and finding opportunities to do small kindnesses for others.
I am trying to stop using money spent as the measure of affection for others.
I am giving time and attention to those about whom I care deeply.
I am also watching for the random stranger, who struggles with their own, unknown demons, and trying to make their day a little brighter.
I am reducing my need to measure based on output and concentrate of throughput.
I am trying something different. What about you?
Not sure where this might lead. Some habits and perceptions are deep and resist change. Others are surprisingly easy to overturn and replace.
Doing this feels right… if nothing else, it certainly beats cruising the malls and fighting for parking spaces.
Trying something new in the Heartland …