“Everybody has three characters: That which he exhibits, that which he has, and that which he thinks he has.”
We are NOT what we eat, as the saying goes … we are what we show to the world.
Now I do not see anything wrong with acting differently toward others than you may feel like acting inside.
Sometimes we call this being polite. Sometimes we call this being smart:)
We smile and go along because we realize we need to, and not because we want to. Parents know this and so do most employees.
We also engage in our little fantasies about how we think we are. To our mind’s eye, we may seem more courageous and smart, more caring, more engaged … or we may feel ourselves less worthy. The pendulum swings both way, as they say.
The problem starts when the difference between how you act and how you feel is so stark and deep that you have compromised your values.
How can you tell when the difference between who you are and who you seem is too far out of whack?
How do you know when your values have been compromised to a degree that creates dissonance?
How do you move back into an acceptable level of congruence?
Wondering how I come across in the Heartland ….